First off, my apologies for being a lame blogger for the last month. My life is pretty routine lately...school, work, work, work, weekend, school, work work, weekend. etc.
Anyways on to my current thoughts. My dear friend Kathleen was quoted to say the title of this blog "It's not settling if you can't do any better" just a week ago at one of our favorite downtown establishments. And to that I have to say, "no thanks"
As little girls we all dream of growing up some day and meeting that one special boy that sweeps us off our feet, and slips a shiny diamond on our ring finger. We dream of a beautiful wedding with family, friends, dancing, and the best night of our lives. We dream of having our own children to raise, and take care of and love. In my hometown, most girls I went to high school with married their high school sweetheart shortly after graduation (and some even before) and by now have 1,2, or even 3 kids by now.
Here I am, almost 25 years old, no marriage, no children, and not even a serious prospective hubs to show for myself. Now, it was understandably for a good reason, and I'm thrilled that in 3 months I will be able to finally use this hard earned degree for some good.
I have dated my fair share of guys in the past, and I think its safe to say I don't have a particular type. of guy I tend to go for. One thing I've learned though, is that I will absolutely not settle for someone I am not 100% head over heels for. Every guy has his redeeming qualities and things that make him seem like an eligible candidate.
At the end of the day though, if you cannot visualize this man standing at the end of the aisle with a huge smile on his face, or holding your newborn baby for the first time, then he's not the one. Don't get me wrong, I absolutely think everyone should date a few Mr. Wrongs before finding their Prince Charming, and I think we're all guilty of this. When I was a freshman in high school I was positive I was going to marry the boyfriend I had then. That was over 10 years ago now, and I think we are both completely different people now
So I guess the moral of this story is, Ladies, don't settle for a guy just because he has a good job, a lot of money, is good looking, or really nice....If he doesn't make your toes curl when he kisses you, doesn't make the world disappear when he wraps you in his arms, and doesn't give you butterflies every time you see his name light up on your phone, he's not the one.
Waiting may seem difficult, especially when all your friends are getting married and having babies and whatnot, but settling is not an option, for me or anyone else.
And Kathy, If you ever feel like you can do better, then you're settling, and that's not allowed..
